People who make a big fuss about their relationships on Facebook are those feeling the least secure in their relationships as a new study shows.
The sudden flood of posts you see about a relationship is known as “relationship visibility”.
Relation visibility might sound like a happy couple just sharing their love, but the truth is that it’s just a mask to cover their deep feelings of insecurity, as found by a recent study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
Researchers postulated that attachment triggers relationship visibility, meaning “avoidant individuals showed low desire for relationship visibility, whereas anxious individuals reported high desire visibility.”
Their theory was proven correct after recruiting 108 student couples to participate in three-related studies that required them to keep a daily dairy about their relationship for two weeks,
Researchers said: “On a daily basis, when people felt more insecure about their partner’s feelings, they tended to make their relationships visible,” “These studies highlight the role of relationships in how people portray themselves to others.”
Which means that when a person is insecure in their relationship and feeling down about their partner, they go to Facebook for some kind of validation. At the very least the supportive comments could be a distraction from personal distress.
Airi Lampinen, co-author of the study said in a press release, “while social norms required individuals to be real in their sharing behavior, presenting oneself in the right way through sharing often necessitated an element of faking. We found that it was not uncommon for some users to purposely choose to listen to, or indeed not listen to, particular music according to the image that that individual wants to portray to others.”
So the next time some unbearable person you want to unfriend talks about his relationship for the billionth time, don’t get mad. Get worried about their relationship because they certainly are.